My take on Bigg Boss 7

As the most hyped show bigg boss 7 has entered into its finale week, wid the famous model and actress Gauhar Khan, actress Tanisha Mukherjee, Vj Andy, international level wrestler Sangram Singh and actor Ajaz Khan as its final contestants, everybody is eagerly waiting for the final word--the name of the proud winner for bigg boss 2013.

Although Bigg Boss has been and still is the most popular reality series on television among youth, this season has seen the most violent and vulgar scenes so far. The quality of entertainement has degraded and the channel producers have stooped down to the level of showing intimate scenes between named stars lyk tanisha mukherjee n armaan kohli, the vulgar acts and clothes of ex-contestant and model Sofia Hayat n even went down to showing Armaan Kohli being arrested on d account of a complaint lodged by a co-contestant just to gain publicity and gather high TRPs.

This season saw two contrasting love stories-- On one hand there was Gauhar Khan and actor and model Kushal Tandon, portraying their innocent and dedicated relationship. Kushal even went on to propose Gauhar telling her that he wanted to grow old with her n the famous actress responded in the affirmative including herself in the names of the very few people who declare their relationships on national tv. Their relationship is being criticised and is believed to be a publicity stunt just to gather votes and to make sure their stay in the house lasts for a long time. They were shown as spending time with each other, having quarels at certain intervals but stood for each other at all instances.

On the other hand, we asw the mysterious love story- if I can call it so- of tanisha mukherjee and armaan kohli-which was portrayed as a very old style love with armaan dominating and shouting at tanisha time and again and tanisha not uttering a word in return. At one place, tanisha acted like a very mature(timid and docile as I would call it) girl who understood the mood-swings of her so-called (boy)friend and allowed herself to be shouted upon, at other places she was often seen as a very  insecure and secluded girl who just wanted to fulfill her physical needs. While there are innumerable instances of tanisha nad armaan(tanman as they are popularly called) passionately hugging each other, the camera has also captured them nude-being intimate with each other at night. Many times the viewers have also witnessed tanisha calling over armaan to kiss her in the bathroom or at some places armaan kissing tanisha on the couch. Besides all this, we have never seen armaan respecting tanisha in any way and their love may be interpretted as one-sided.

Then there is the 'clown-of-the-house'--Ajaz Khan- who does everything for the camera. It seems he doesn't have any personal life or maybe he is too ashamed of himself to show his true self on national tv. He has managed to come so far by doing his diplomatic acts(which he calls entertainment) for always being a part of the majority group in the house. He was also seen flirting with Gauhar Khan whom he called his friend but later on he bacl-stabbed gauhar when she understood his tactics and refused to talk to him. Everyone in the house is here to play their game and he is one of them but he is playing a dirty game and doesn't deserve to win because he doesnot have any personal life or personality to show. All he has done so far is changing sides, bitching and back-stabbing.

Next in the row is Sangram Singh who has not managed to gain much attention so far. His only strategy has been not to indulge in groupism or any kind of arguments or fights in the house and play safe. He doesn't have many friends in the house apart from andy whom he call his 'bhai' but hasn't done anything to prove his words yet. As the season is coming to an end and there are no more nominations, he has started showing his true colours-his jatt nature- by disrespecting anybody and everybody who says anything to him. There was no doubt in him being a stubborn man, but last week's fight between him and andy showed his other side(read true side) where he came out as an assertive, foolish and mannerless fellow. He is being referred as a 'kala saanp' ana a fake face by many. He is the most iritable person in the house (ofcourse after tanisha) and doesnot deserve a place here.

Lastly there is the 'hope-of-the-house' anand vijay kumar-andy as he is popularly known who is binding whole of the house together. Initially we saw him as a very fun-loving and entertaining personality but gradually when things went out of hand, he limited his boundaries and went ahead  to join armaan and tanisha n dat was the end of him. After that we hardly saw the real andy, he drifted more towards the bitching game and indulged himself in the house politics. He, no doubt, is a strong contender for bigg boss 7 winner tag, but the chances could have been more strong if he had maintained his real image like gauhar khan. He too had fights in the house but eventually managed to come out clean by apologising. He is a very good-natured, friendly human being and have very bright chances of winning the show if he plays straight.

Lastly, the host of the show Mr. Salman Khan or shall I say Miss Salman Khan, a woman inside the body of a man, who doesnot have enough guts to stand for what is right, who sold himself for pennies or maybe its just becoz of friendship, but whatever he is doing is downright unjust. As he says frequently 'Jo hota hai wohii dikhta hai', this thing straightaway applies to him as his favouring tanisha, his good friend and former co-actor kajol's sister, is visible to all and in no way can it be justified. He goes on grilling gauhar n kushal, tanisha's foes, or we can say the only two people who have the guts to stand against the wrong and stand up for their own self-respect. By supporting tanisha and her (boy)friend, salman is demonstrating his weaker vision. He is showing his por standards and he is being portrayed as a double-faced dumb man who is acting puppet in the hands of tanisha. He is disrespecting his job of being the show host and is taking undue advantage of the respect the contestants show towards him. Every weekend he unfolds every single page of gauhar's personal life but doesn't enquire about the relationship of armaan and tanisha which by now is an open secret. He, on one side, tells kushal to respect women(read tanisha) but on the other side mentally harrasses gauhar every weekend. he has lost many fans already and the number will increase manyfolds if the deserving contestant is not announced the winner.

One week more to go.. n the suspense will be unfolded. Now the bigg boss fans can only hope their favourite show ends on a positive note conveying the message that bigg boss is not about power and influence.. its about an individual- his character, his attitude n his outlook towards life!!!
   

                     TIME TO MOVE ON.....

Some times in lyf v come across sch situations when v feel dat life has come to a dead end. Although being in a relationship, v start feeling lonely.. v prefer being alone rather dan spnding tym wid our beloved... v start envying odr couples, wondering der relationship is mch better dan ours.. Den v must realise dat dis is d tym to MOVE ON!!! 

U need not feel guilty to break off. U must keep in mind dat relationships end.. people break off.. Don't waste ur tym beating a wall, hoping to transform it into a door. We should never xpct our love story to b a fairy tale. V should not xpct our partners to b perfect coz v can't even make ourselves wht v wish to b.. den how can v xpct odrs to b xactly lyk wht v wish dem to b!!

Try to sort things out... bt donot suffocate urself. Put in ur best effort.. but if at any point of tym u feel dat ur inner self is dying den d relationship has to end. Dnt hesitate to b selfish.. derz no harm in thinking 4 urself!! Without sch love u'l die, but wid sch love u'l perish. So.. isn't it better to die 'in pain' rather dan dieing 'of pain' ??

One relationship didn't work doesn't mean dat ua at fault...maybe ders someone else out der waiting to shower his immense love on u... W8 for d right one.. dat someone who will gently swipe away all ur prblms n griefs n will fill ur lyf wid d hues of true love!!! Den u'l knw wht lyf really is.. n den.. u will not have any regrets.. only smiles n laughters :)

till den.. keep waiting!! patiently!!

"If someone hits me...i'l hit him back!!" Dis is d mindset of about 90% of d hot-blooded younsters nowadays!!
Bt v ought to stop n think 4 once.. Is d situation worth our attention or energy?? Whenever u get angry at anything..anyone.. jst think dat will u bite d dog back in case it bit u??

In our daily life, v encounter people who r angry, deceitful, intent only on satisfying der own needs. There is so mch anger, distrust, greed and pettiness dat v r losing our capacity to work well together. I'd b lying if i said I donot get angry at any point of tym. But I've really worked hard to get a grip over my anger so dat d situation doesn't go out of hand. Over d tym i've realised dat in tyms of great stress or advesity,its always best to keep busy, to plow ur anger n energy into smthin positive. Holding on to anger is lyk grasping hot coal wid d intent of throwing it at smone else..bt  U r d one who gets burned.

Here in no way I assert dat der is anythin wrong in being angry..coz he who is not angry about anything doesn't really care about anything. Being angry is a part of human nature..bt try to turn ur anger into smthing constructive. Don't let anger take over ur rational mind and numb ur senses coz usually whtevr is begun in anger ends in shame. Make sure dat whtevr u say or do doesn't make u regret later on as d consequences of anger are more harmful dan d cause itself. D topmost priority in transforming urself should b to control ur temper. Although u may spend ur whole lyk killing,  u won't exhaust all ur foes. But if u quell ur own anger, ur real enemy will b slain!!

Think over!!!

CHANGE UR ATTITUDE..CHANGE UR FATE!!

"I don't knw.. I don't care.. It doesn't make any difference!!" Dis famous quote by Sir Albert Einstein gives d ideal attitude to live life wid. Often in our lives, we r trapped in dilemmas... about wht is wrong n wht is right.. v r unable to decide which way to choose.. jst close ur eyes n listen to what ur heart says.. coz whtevr v do.. whtevr v donot.. will affect only one person's life.. n dat is OURS!!! Life is 5% about wht happens to us.. n 95% about how we react to it!!

Der r a billion people on d planet.. wid each one having der own opinions about anything and everything..whtevr u do..u'l have haters.. u'l have lovers as well!! Don't be affected by wht people say.. Let ur instinct guide u!! get dis encarved into ur spirit dat if a lot of people r jealous of u.. den u r definitely going on d right path!! Don't let urself.. ur true self... suurender infront of criticism..Weakness of attitude is often interpretted as weakness of character..If u really want odrs to stand up n applaud for u.. den u must stand on der opposite side.. mateialising wonders which odrs could only imagine.. n for dat.. u'l have to walk alone..until u have enough people to follow u!!

Try to find treasures in garbage dumps.. coz der is an upside to everything!! Have a positive attitude..Coz a positive attitude may not solve ALL ur problems.. but it'l annoy enough people to make it worth d effort ;)

                                   LONELINESS

Loneliness is not d feeling wen noOne is around... Its not d feeling wn u r in a solitary place all alone by urself... its d feeling of pain which u can't share wid anyone... its d feeling of helplessness wen u have a million reasons to cry for but still.. couldn't get a shoulder to cry on... its d feeling of guilt wen d only person u care for is gone.. n u couldn't do anything to get dem back...

Its wen u r surrounded by people all around bt der is emptiness in ur heart... wen ur eyes wish to see only one person in d crowd but couldn't find dem... its wen u have no odr option but to forget d one who was d only one you could once think about... Its crying silently during nights... Its d feeling of hollowness wen u feel dat lyf has come to a dead end... Its wen u regret something deeply.. very deeply... bt still couldn't do nythng to alter it!! 

Its d feeling of depression wen u want nthng but dem to complete ur lyf..bt fate has smthng else in store for u... Its wen u r pushed into d never ending tunnel where der is nothing but a long wait for a single ray of light...

When d meaning of life confines to painful memories n silent sobs...

N u drift to another world... The wold which exists no more... N all dat is left behind is... DARKNESS!!

Jst aghast to knw dat d main culprit in d acid attack case was herself a woman!!

Its a man's job to rspct a woman but its a woman's job to give him something to rspct!! Alot has been said about d men who are indulged in d heinous acts of rapes, acid attacks n eve teasing.. but d fact dat every coin has two sides cannot be sidelined!! Agreeing to d fact dat men indulge in sch activities to impose der physical power on women n claim der superiority of strength over women bcoz if it was jst about sex, dey always have brothels n stuff at their disposal!! But it could not be denied dat women have a quarter,if not equal, role in sch happenings.Alot of people talk about women empowerment dese days n alot has been talked about women cuming out of der homes n giving a stiff competition to men in all sectors but d fact remains dat at some point women demselves consider dat dey r inferior to men in one or d other perspective. People acoss d nation, in d growing influence of modernisation, have started raising der daughters as sons,widout pertaining to any inequality on d grounds of sex but d real change will occur wen d same parents will raise der sons as daughters, instilling in dem d morals dat dey r in no way superior to any fellow human being, of d same or opposite gender! For a real n lasting change, d mothers, apart from teaching der daughters d virtue of compromise, should teach dem to stand up n fight for der rights, to go out n grab what belongs to dem.

 But d situation in India is quite contradictory. The women here demselves r quite convinced dat men r priviledged to dominate d society n dey r doomed to remain in their shadows n oreach d same to their daughters. The myth dat no matter wht heights dey achiee i their future,dey have to ultimately cook for der family as women r best suited in d kitchen is so strongly cemented in der minds dat dey r bound to beieve it as a fact and spnd der whole lives in d service of der families widout evn a hint of gratitude by der families. N surprisingly, d ones who invoke sch kinda thoughts in der minds r none odr dan der own mothers, who demselves being women feel dat d life of a woman is rightfully dedicated to d service of a man.Not only dis, in most of d cases of dowry deaths,female foeticides,infanticides.. d amin accused is usually d female of d house n in some cases d girl herself.

Des incidents instill d eeling of superiority in d minds of men dat dey r d controllers of d society n d masters of civility. In sch a society where men r so obsessed, dey want wht der hearts desire..sch vugar cimes r bound to persist. N d men CANNOT b held solely responsible coz d women too in some way fuels d fires in dem.

All debates going across d nation r simply useless.. First d thought needs to b changed.. D base of d discussion needs to b changed!IF A WOMEN WANTS OTHERS TO RESPECT HER.. SHE SHOULD FIRST LEARN TO RESPECT HERSELF!!!